What controls outcomes in our life. Is it us? Or is it the Principles that we follow in our lives?
When that question is asked, many would say that outcome is always in their control. But the reality is much different. Outcomes in life is not in our control. But Principles do have a control on each outcome.
As Benjamin Hardy had rightly pointed out, many times people and their decisions are governed by Objective Principles. It is more important for us to find results quicker than fix problems permanently. Yet we forget, the majority of the success happens at the very end, and most people aren’t patient enough for the big return. He goes further to illustrate with a simple experiment:
If you drop a book, gravity will ensure it hits the ground. You controlled that action, but the outcome was the result of how it interacted with the outside world.
Small undetectable habits are the ones that accumulate and create the quality and legacy of our lives. The big things achieved in this world are just the smaller things that are done repeatedly. Sachin would not be a legend, if not for his records. True. But what made his records remarkable was his continuous effort to accumulate each run with the same vigor as the run that he made when he faced his first legal delivery.
Why do we settle for a temporary solution? This basic doubt arises when we talk about “living for the moment”. We usually act upon our immediate desires, rather than consciously choosing for each moment of our lives to serve some kind of purpose, add to some kind of objective.
‘Freedom is not the ability to act on any given impulse, it is the ability to choose what you want to act on, and why. It is not the absence of commitments, values, or discipline, it is the ability to choose them at will.’
The truest love is not how one feels, but how he or she acts. When one wants a “soulmate” relationship, think of it not as something that we find, but a person we choose and then grow with over time. The same way if we want to find purpose in life, we should think of it as whatever we are good enough to keep doing, until we leave a legacy — that is our calling.
It is not in premeditation that we decide what the big, important parts of our lives are. It relies on us doing, particularly, doing it over and over again. Doing defines our lives, our characters, our relationships—everything.
Everything that matters happens in small, repeated actions, and small actions are made up of moments. Which is why instead of living for the desires of “the moment,” one should live for the work of one’s legacy.
Our legacy is what we will be remembered by — what kind of person we were, and what we did while we were here in this world. Developing this requires us to be present. It requires us to choose. It requires us to use each of our moments, rather than wash them away with a rush.
There is a deeper, more profound peace that comes from working toward building a part of ourself in the world, rather than building our life around catering to our senses’ immediate desires. It will be equally taxing, frustrating, gratifying, joyful, exhausting — but at the end we are left with something greater than our self, and that is the point. Everything is hard, only some things are worth it.
~shared and adapted from blogs and materials i liked